COLUMN FOR A WOMAN: The magnificent power of woman?

THE MAGNIFICENT POWER OF WOMAN

Only a woman can start a new wave of belief in society that the truth of a woman is the inner strength that gives her the ability to be able to and to want to. As if this century belongs to a woman to correct all the injustice that was done to her throughout history, and now it depends on her will she accomplish that with revenge or research.

The vortex of a woman and a man

The world seems dramatic like it is in some chaos. When you look at it from the outside, it leaves an unnatural and cold impression, like it is abandoned by its Creator. As if no one leads it and no one takes care of it. As if there is a warm heart missing that loves motherly and gathers protectively. Because there are ruined relationships and mistrust between men and women. There is no collaboration, but constant competition and blaming each other. That is why it looks like an unsafe place to live in. Who will bring peace to their hearts, pour new trust and give them the joy of life? Who will take the responsibility without the quest for the offender?

Young girls are confused because through music and movies the ideal picture of a man and fulfilled woman is romanticized. They are not interested in young men, they are self–sufficient and enough for each other. Girls don’t party and hang out with boys anymore, but they form groups admiring themselves. Why does a woman think that her only obstacle is a man? How did this fear come into a woman that she feels endangered by a man? Why does a woman represent herself as a ‘superior victim’ that aims to be superior in social and business surroundings and love life, and for her failures she accepts the imposed role of a victim? Or does she represent herself as an invincible mega–woman like a woman of power?

It is because neo-feminism contributed to that false image of a woman who directs all her strength against a man. The domination of women is being forced. Why does someone have to dominate someone else? What consequences arise after that?

Painful memories from negative experiences with a man are being raised, and with that aggression and anger stir up in a woman. Because every woman has experienced a painful encounter with a man throughout life. She has the ‘right’ to hate the male gender, but what if she really starts to hate it? Where will this world go? Certainly, into the doom. That is why hagiotherapeutic anthropology is needed that takes a step forward than present anthropological research and deals with the spiritual dimension of man, where man is specifically man and where all causes lay.

A woman – an unexplored mystery

Why is it so hard to write about a woman realistically, and the media dare to cheaply describe her and put her on a paper linch? Why is it too hard to describe a woman, to write about a woman, to speak about a woman? Why is it so hard to give birth to a woman? Why is it so hard to be a woman? Obviously, because she is splendid, worthy and magnificent just because she exists.

Who writes about a woman? A man that doesn’t know her, who didn’t explore her, who was hurt by her, who is obsessed with her. Who writes about a woman? And what does he write about a woman? Is that anger, bitterness, assault writing? The hatred towards man mustn’t write about a woman. It shouldn’t be written of a woman with hurt emotions of anger, fear, and sadness. The one who feels like a victim and pathetic because she is a woman shouldn’t write about a woman. Also, the one who thinks that she isn’t worthy, that she is less powerful, who thinks that less is given to her, who is bitter towards male and female gender shouldn’t write about a woman. Also, the one who has accomplished her ‘peak’ of power of reputation and success shouldn’t write about it. The one who expects that a man will bring her equality also shouldn’t write about it.

I personally bare an enormous responsibility and owe a spiritual legacy to my daughters, to all young girls, or to say to a woman of today. I want to write as a conscious woman that has the clarity that a man and a woman are man with unique needs. I want to write as one who was growing up in a surrounding of men – my father, brothers, spouse, and mentor – whether they have accepted me or rejected me, understood me or hurt me, protected me or endangered me. I want to write as one who raised above all insults, like a phoenix from ash. The one who has been healing, the one who still has a place for a man in her depths. In that, the charisma of hagiotherapy that is created by a man is going to help me. Lucky are the women of this century!

Legacy to a woman of today

What does the generation of middle-aged women and women at the doorstep of mature age have to solve? What to leave as a legacy to a woman of tomorrow? How to correct the injustice made to woman throughout history? How to encourage and lighten – up the way for a young woman of today? With what strength can a woman live her calling at all times?

For a few days now I have been having deep conversations about the life of a woman with a girl from India that is going to school in Prague but comes to Croatia by business as a cameraman. She comes from a Buddhist family. And with another girl from Vienna whose parents are divorced. Two young and successful women lavished me with questions about freedom in marriage, the joy of birth, relentless motherhood and the status of women in society. They admitted a negative attitude about it and that is why they decided to focus on their careers. They were especially interested in where I get that woman’s power that every woman of today wants to have. Because, as they say, freedom and joy of a woman in me radiate from that, and they also long for that. They themselves wished to be a happy and free woman in marriage, with that magnificent strength of life and they were interested in how to reach that. That is why I wanted to deal with that inner strength that led me through life on different continents, in different situations, and at different ages of life. A strength that still leads me. A modern woman of today senses it somewhere in herself, while neo-feminism stirs it up the wrong way.

In my early youth, with the wounds of rejection and not being accepted the fear of the male gender crept in, and anger was coming out, hatred and aggression towards men that I would encounter. As if I attracted wounded young men that carried insults and wounds of being left behind and abandoned. I was exactly the target of their frustrations and seeking. That is how the disappointment in the male gender came. I created a new attitude ‘never to trust a man and never to serve him’, no marriage. But I didn’t lose faith in love. In my early twenties, a personal encounter with the Living Love happened to me.  There is where I have experienced that I have the right to be the one that I am and the one that I want to be.  Accepted with my originality. As if I was called once again to be a woman. That new calling to be a woman gave me security that it is nice that I exist and that I can make the world a better place for life. That I am not a coincidence, but a project of my Creator. A magnificent strength was overtaking my depths. I was ready for new courage and daring for life, wherever that life may be. Like some new hope and trust in a man came in. I fell in love with the sky, although I lived on earth. That is how I opened myself up to everything that is earthly and let my Creator create my life. And He still creates it.

The power of love

In order for a woman to discover the magnificent strength inside her, an inner transformation has to happen. A new conversion of her. From herself to the One who has created her, from the earthly that is passing to heavenly that is forever. To discover the meaning of life and the meaning of her existence.  Science should be kept track of, but always research new science. Freud began all with instinct and because of fear, he didn’t research more. Frankl in his logotherapy helps us to discover a subconscious in ourselves, or a spiritual area, and Ivancic lightens –up the path to the spiritual soul. That is that magnificent strength, indestructible, the cause of all causes, the answer to all questions.

Professor Ivancic concludes: ‘ Hagiotherapy has taken the task to research man’s spiritual soul, its woundedness, traumas, diseases and inabilities; and to find a way so that those wounds are diagnosed and how to cure them. On one side hagiotherapy makes possible a new approach to man by researching man’s spiritual dimension, it shows man’s limitless possibilities of growth, new possibilities of life, a better world and better man. On the other hand, hagiotherapy, when man becomes ill, wants to provide knowledge on how to go towards the health of his spirit once again.’                        (Hagiotherapeutic Anthropology, T.Ivancic)